Ages from 35 to 45!
Mission accomplished!
Congratulation, you have succeeded the collective mission Evolution has assigned to the every single human being from the past, present and the coming future – procreation.
Unfortunately, Evolution is not going to give you the medal of valor for the well executed mission. From the Evolution’s point a view, you are no longer useful to the species as a whole. As a result, you have been wired to the checkout line for the next 10 years.
Prior to the British Industrial Revolution in the mid 17th century, Evolution has been successfully thinning down the population with the average life expectancy of approximately 35 years.
Within this window of time frame, genetically, you and I are wired to shut down.
The magnitude of the crisis is in proportional to the quality of the play you have executed in the Family inning and the preparation you have made prior to the first pitch in the Midlife Crisis inning.
It is within this inning, from the ages of 35 to 45, the players will experience the transformation similar to the ordeal in The Puberty – internal and biological changes.
Fortunately for our species and on the average, men and women experience these internal changes approximately 2 to 5 years apart. The gap is getting smaller as women are taking more role and responsibility traditionally occupied by men. As a result, they are experiencing the same type and level of stress commonly in men.
The player in this inning will experience the high and low similarly to those who are currently in puberty with few key differences. The predominant experiences will be on the low end, depression, irritable and downright angry.
The high end experience will require a lot more personal investment of structure and coordinate of efforts – gym, sleep, proper nutrition, relationship navigation and financial tending.
Below is the player’s stat in the Midlife Crisis inning.
In the Family inning, the game imposed a great deal of taxation on Financial, Health and Relationship.
Within this ten years stretch, most of you will reach the pinnacle of your salary. Unfortunately, your spending has been escalated along the way and the resulted saving is minuscule.
According to the 2018 financial research from Magnify Money, the average savings in the United States is $16,420, with the median savings tallied at $4,830. This is unacceptable statistic considering the United States is the wealthiest nation in the world.
Ironically, as your salary ascended to the apex, your personal relationship with your mate is descended to the opposite end of the spectrum – hitting rock-bottom for 50 percents of the population.
As of the early part of the 21st century, one in every two marriages ended up in divorce within ten years.
Since the dawn of civilization ten thousand years ago, we have formally invested time and effort in training new generation one after another to sail the ship toward greater progress.
Overwhelmingly, the formal curriculum is about creating or maintaining the objective world we are residing – planes, train, automobile, spaceship, skyscraper and more.
As for the subjective world, feeling, connectedness, purpose – the planes, train and automobile of relationship, are not being addressed by the modern educational system.
Hence, many of us do not have the proper foundation to build a meaningful relationship that matches with the current increase lifespan.
These are the events that bring meaning to the word “crisis” in Midlife –
- Most of you have been conditioned to have a full blown consumerism mindset and it is becoming a financial burden to yourself and family.
- You have been formally trained to pursue to a salary to match with the consumerism life style. All awhile, neglecting one on one relationship with your mate and children.
- Financial pressure, challenging personal relationship and internal biological changes brought on the set of expected health issues – high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes and depression.
- The psychological feeling of “me against the world”.
The relentless build-up of the events over the years finally revealed themselves as one tsunami event approximately at the half-way marker of an average life expectancy – the Midlife Crisis.
Steve Jobs, a real life Game Changer, died from pancreatic cancer at 56. The billion he earned in previous innings is powerless in saving the genius.
In fairness, not all cancer victims had low quality relationship, lived unhealthy lifestyle and faced financial difficulty. Few had played the game by the book and lost – this is the unfortunate lottery winning.
Evolution strategically has placed four significant life events in the Game of Life – birth, puberty, midlife crisis and death.
From the freewill perspective, each and every one of us does have a considerable oversight on how the game is played in all these events with the exception of birth – we have control over the final score.
These seismic milestones, for better or worse, will impose the abandonment of the old you behind. If you embrace the change , the emergence of the new you will be mostly unrecognizable – especially to those who have known you over the years.
The Midlife Crisis inning is particularly critical. It is the last major game play that will determine the trajectory to your final milepost.
It is in this inning that The Engineer is highly recommended for you to shore up your game with a proper Money Play, bolster your life with the meaningful Relationship Play, strengthen up with the require Health Play and more importantly do not isolate from the world with the execution of a compassionate Humanity Play.
The successful players in the Game of Life are those who understand the rules of the engagement in its entirety and systematically execute on them.
The ultimate prize to the participants is much more than money, title and power – it is a fulfilling life.
Let’s play the Game of Life!
