In the last article “How to Grow Your Relationship with Anyone, Anything, Anywhere and Anytime! Part 2”, I started with a personal example of investing time in self reflection – one you have the understanding of your inner values, use them in the search for your lifelong mate.
We will continue with the personal example of using the inner values to search for the career that pays for the family and has the potential of defining the legacy of your existence.
The last article segregated the population into 2 time spans –
- Time interval 1 – span from puberty to mid 30’s
- Time interval 2 – from mid 30’s to the end of time
From puberty to mid 30’s, one of the most confusing aspects of your life is the figuring out the vocation that you will take on to pay for yourself and the family of your own.
There are two reasons why this process is so confuse for the new generations.
In all animals, exclude the human species, puberty is in synched with the animal’s capability to hunt for foods for the purpose of survival.
In all corners around the world, the affluent way of life to live better than the previous generation are readily available for the new generation when they cross the puberty line.
Comforts in necessities hampered the urgency for the new generation to hone the skill to pay for the basic necessities – why they have to work for the basic needs when they are readily free under the parents’ roof.
Without hunger serves as the primary drive to counter balance – the puberty, hormonal surges, hijacked the majority members of the new generation.
The majority trained careers have less than 10 years of shelf life – a loss in ROI just by taking into consideration of the base 13 years of investment from kindergarten to high school.
The very few careers that last 20 to 30 years required an additional investment of 10 to 15 years to specialize. The work, post-education, requires the investor to be innovated in the chosen field – meaning the career must be competitive in the advancement of progress.
Hence, it is a futile effort to find a perfect career if you are in the age range from puberty to mid 30’s.
In truth, when I decided to major in Electrical Engineering, it was not resulted from “Self” reflection. However, it was post-result of the established inner value that I must be a college graduate.
Without that inner foundation secured, I would not have found Electrical Engineering as a practical career to pay for myself and the family.
Statistically, less than 10 percents of children from abject poverty attended and graduated from a 4 years college program. According to the Census Bureau in 2017, approximately 4.8 percents bachelor’s degree recipients were living in abject poverty
The efforts I had invested in the early years to establish the inner set of values – served as the light house that guided all my actions and behaviors toward progress.
I chose to major in Engineering because the first 12 years of education had clearly shown that I was competitive in Math and Science – the flavor of Engineering was more or less fuzzy.
In retrospect, if I had chosen to invest in science in totality, for example Medicine, I would have fared just as well – if not better in term of shelf life of a chosen career.
I had elected to take the path of Electrical Engineering because of the practicality and reality of my specific financial situation – I must have a mean to pay for myself and the family.
With the additional 2 years for the Master of Computer Science, the totality of 18 years of investment in education, the first 12 years, 4 years of college and 2 years of the master program – resulted in 20 years of a professional career that paid for lively hood of a family with children and funded a life time of Financial Independence.
The example from my personal life experience from puberty to mid 30’s should give you 2 important lessons that are universal for all young adults.
Does it mean you will know everything of the future values?
Absolutely not, because life is a largest market that rewards the best of existence for the winning negotiation for Anyone, Anything, Anywhere and Anytime!
By knowing your “Self” – mathematically, you will a higher probability of success in negotiating of an existence results more of your “Self” and less of the “Others”.
Your time is too precious to live life based on others’ values.
Does it mean you will be happy in every moment of your life?
Absolutely not, life will be extremely boring if you won every single negotiation. It is the up and down in the successes and the challenges that resulted in the manifestation of human emotions – happiness is among them.
By investing more time in exploring your inner “Self”, on the average 50 percents of your life is determined. The remaining 50 percents will be decided by the negotiation skill with the outside world you managed to execute in the 10 years following the first day of your puberty.
In the next article, I will move the discussion to the next time interval – mid 30’s to the end of time.
(Relationship – How to Grow Your Relationship with Anyone, Anything, Anywhere and Anytime! Part 4)
Let’s play the game of life.
