The Parents – a crucial part in the relationship structure, and an essential ingredient in all new lives.
The Parents play such the critical relationship component that its impact can cross the typical life span.
The Parents structure defined the relationship between two biological capable “Selves” and minimally one aspiring new and young “Self”.
The current Emperor of Japan came from the Parents set began with Emperor Jimmu in 600 BC, 125 monarchs ago – the oldest continuous dynasty in the world.
John Davison “Jay” Rockefeller IV was the United States Senator from West Virginia from 1985 to 2015. He is the great-grand son of the oil tycoon John Davison Rockefeller Sr. who died in 1937.
The Family Values Set that separated the original Parents pair from the general population and continued its impact beyond time.
Why are these Parents exceptional?
And do you have to achieve a certain level of public status for the propagation of the impact?
The answer to the second question is unequivocally no. There are many families around the world that are hidden from the public eyes. Yet, the Family Values Set executes by the current generation can easily trace back to many generations from the past.
These Parents pairs were exceptional because they had experimented, designed, defined and consistently executed a sub values set from the respective boundary of culture – that brought tremendous benefits to the families.
Furthermore, if the Family Values Sets are generously designed, their utilities will benefit the local specific societies. In turn, their families’ public statuses are set in accordance.
For example, an average monkey uses a stick to retrieve the ants from the tiny tunnel for a quick snack. A Game Changer monkey came along designed an easy, more effective technique or tool that consistently captured more ants for enjoyment.
If the new behavior is repeated often and on a regular basis, his/her kid will eventually learn the new technique for the ongoing and future ant-snacks expeditions.
The article “Relationship 101 – The Self” defined the term Self-Complexity Odyssey as “Self discovering journey”.
Time will define new role for the Self, the Parents as of now – regardless of the progress on the Self-Complexity Odyssey. This is why many adults are observed to have children, yet, they have not grown into the effectively role as Parents.
Each Parent in the pair is a Self promotion in time. In a typical family of four, Mom, Dad and two children, there are four instances of “Self” – each will have its own Self-Complexity Odyssey.
The level of the complexity and the intersection will determine the distance between the Self and the rest members of the family. In many instances it is a trigger of separation for the child, a complete Self, to move onto his/her path – typically around the Puberty time frame.
The Parents pair in figure 3 above each has his/her own Self-Complexity Odyssey – yet, with sufficient cross-section that resulted in a Family Values Set and in turn the establishment of a family.
In looking at the child 1 and the child 2 in relation to the Parents, child 2 is more in-tune with the Family Values Set as shown in the cross-section area – predictably, child 2 will have a shorter Self-Complexity Odyssey than child 1 overall.
There are two components to the role of parenting –
- The inner natural instinct gravitation toward one’s own offspring.
- The Family Values Set.
Component one determines the level of responsibility one’s natural tendency to the caring of his/her own children.
Component two acquired from the Parent’s previous Parent combined with the specific Culture Values Set the Parent had adopted along the way. This component determined the Parent’s capability to fulfill his/her instinctive responsibility toward his/her offspring.
Both components will determine the level of accomplishment of the Parenting role in the time frame of ten to fifteen years.
Let’s dissect these two components in more detail!
As described above, component one is an inner-natural instinct. Within a general population, it is observable the shades of emotions parents expressed toward their own children
At the extreme ends, few rendered so much love the act muffled the well-being of the youngsters. Whereas the opposite end of the spectrum, the helpless minors are left to defend themselves.
These two extremes behaviors are for all practical purposes can be classified as inner-natural instinct – the genetic factor.
Epigenetic, introduced in the 1990s, is the latest scientific tool best for the explanation of cases of parents who seemed to have little or no interest in their own offspring.
What about the over-caring parents’ circumstances – it is not hard to find examples of families with kids whose maturity is stymied from the over investment of the parents’ time and resource.
Epigenetic theory does not offer any insight on the over-caring situations – as both cases typically rendered young adults who are well below the average generation population in term of development.
The theory lacked of situational coverage due to its over-emphasis on the environment factor.
Let’s exam the second component that defined the effectiveness of the Parenting role – the Family Values Set!
The Family Values Set determined the family status within a specific cultural boundary.
The Rockefeller family executed play in the Game of Life will be very different from an average family within the general population.
The Rockefeller’s Family Values Set, the Game Changer Family Values Set, can be organized in four precise structures for execution –
- Finance
- Relationship
- Health
- Humanity
Finance – each and every member of the family is executing the money play that put them above the general population. In the case of the Rockefeller family, John Davison Rockefeller Sr. designed and executed an effective money play that the subsequent generations adopted, amended and continued with the execution.
Relationship – each and every member of the family is executing the relationship play that required the participation of not just their immediate families, but the communities they resided from within.
Health – it may be overreaching to say that the members of the Rockefeller family are all living a healthy life style. But, a general observation can be stated that most of them are executing a life style that collectively enabled them to have the impact beyond the boundary of a “Self”.
Humanity – the fact that the family name is still circulating in the general population after many decades implied the utility of the Family Values Set is substantial.
The Parents are nothing more than the Self being promoted in time via biological process. The successful Parents from the cultural perspective will require a little more than the biological maturity.
It is the design and the execution of the Family Values Set that eventually will ascertain the effectiveness of the parenting role.
The level of the effectiveness in the parenting role will determine the progress of the Self-Complexity Odyssey which has begun with first relationship structure – the Self.
Let’s play the game of life!
