…continuation from Relationship – Why Do I Have Such a Tough Time Understanding My Mate (Part 1)
As of the first quarter of the 21st century, the cultural definitions of a man and a woman have been progressively modified since World War II – when the women joined the work force in mass in the effort of supporting the war and the economy at home.
The elemental Feminine is catching up with the elemental Masculine by leveraging the advancement in technologies, especially in the area of robotics and automation – you don’t need the strength of Hercules to get the job done.
The inevitable changes clearly demonstrated that the cultural definition of a man and a woman is in a constant state of flux – whereas, the elemental mixture of the Masculine and Feminine that made you and me is comparably more stable in formation.
Hence individually trying to live up to the societal definition of a man and a woman is a futile effort.
A much better and wiser strategy would be assessing the totality of the Masculine and Feminine in the relationship, plan and execute the game plan that best fit with the current cultural identity of a man or a woman.
Let’s do an example from my own personal relationship to demonstrate the concept.
My wife and I have been married for 27 years.
When we first met, my wife can clearly recognized the elemental Masculine aspect of me was chomping at the bit toward the rat race – vice versa, I picked up her elemental Feminine aspect in synchronization of chomping at the bit toward the building of a stable family.
For the ease of discussion, let’s approximate the Masculine and the Feminine mixture ratio in me was 60:40 with the tendency to favor the Masculine. As for my wife it was 40:60 with the bias toward the Feminine – anatomically, the mixtures were in line with our specific genders.
Our initial ratios were very close in values. We experienced the world – foods, travel, family, friends, society, religions and politics with the same vernacular.
Approximately 20 years into the rat race, the evolved ratio of the Masculine and the Feminine were 90:10 and 10:90 for me and my wife respectively.
I kept up with the competition in the world of Masculine by tapped and enhance the natural tendencies in the Masculine of the mixture – went back to school for higher education, refined the logic and reasoning to ensure everything adds up.
Meanwhile, my wife tapped the natural tendencies in the Feminine of her own mixture. Slowly, she relinquished all the logic and reasoning she had we first met and wholeheartedly embraced her natural and instinctive intuition.
After 20 years or so, I noticed that we no longer communicate in the same vernacular as in the beginning – the tiny intuition in me was alarming.
I was operating on my 90 percents of the elemental Masculine and my wife was full throttle on the 90 percents of the element Feminine – we are not experiencing the world in the same way.
The 2+3=5 is required in the rat race to bring home the bacon – the Masculine.
The bacon is cooked and fed to the family with love and care by the “ish” in 2+3=5ish – the Feminine.
Agree that the world we live in is scientifically built and provable with mathematics and logic. It is sterile, cut-and-dried reality – we relied on it for the purpose of survival.
The “ish” in 2+3=5ish gives rise to the mysterious and conscious intuition, the cooperation, the relationship along with the transient experiences of joy and happiness emotions that are outside the realm of the current state of science.
It was a false alarm for both of us. Once we dug deep for a heart to heart conversation with empathy and respect for each other efforts – we were able to see the full circle of our life experiences.
The Ying and Yang symbol is the best demonstration of the elemental Masculine and the Feminine. The balance and serenity is achieved when the elements are allowed to grow to its fullest potential in a constant evolved relationship.
Do you know that there are animals with the genetic capability to change the sex base on the external environment?
This scientific fact demonstrated that the physical manifestation of the Masculine and the Feminine is not final and 100 percents.
It will always be a mixture – hence, there is a spectrum of Masculinity among men and shades of Femininity among women.
I spoke so often of this spectrum of the Masculine and the Feminine – from time to time, my wife have had concern that I have developed some sort of gender identity crisis.
No, no and no – nothing could be further from the truth. I am blessed with the unambiguous expression of the Masculine. But much more critically, I embraced the Feminine aspect of myself – this is the crucial bridge to the empathy and the understanding of my mate.
For all the years of bathing, feeding and changing the diapers for my daughter and patiently tried to figure out the meaning in my wife scattered conversations – the pay day has finally arrived, I understood the
Had I more concerned with the culture identity of a “Man” – I would have missed the precious opportunity.
We are all created with the mixture of the Masculine and the Feminine. The key to the understanding of our mate in any relationship is the tapping into the non-physical and recessive fraction of the mixture.
The bridge to our mate is hidden within us.
Let’s play the game of life!
